Make festive season conversations count
The festive season has a lovely way of bringing everyone together. Between the catching up, the familiar food and the slightly questionable jokes in the Christmas Bon Bons, it can also shine a light on how older relatives are really doing.
Sometimes it’s only when we step back in the door after months apart that we spot things we might have missed. A little confusion where there used to be confidence. A wobble on the steps. Tasks that suddenly seem harder than they should be.
It’s natural to want to sweep these moments aside and keep the mood merry. But leaving things until a fall or a crisis forces the issue can make decisions rushed and stressful for everyone involved.
This time of year, can offer a gentler entry point into later-life planning. Small conversations now can lead to considered, thoughtful decisions later, rather than a single, overwhelming moment of admitting that things have changed. Most importantly, it gives your loved one the chance to stay involved, make choices and feel in control of what comes next. That sense of control is powerful. It supports independence, maintains dignity, and takes pressure off the whole family.
Starting the conversation
A full house may create a natural moment to share observations and plan together. The trick is knowing how to raise something sensitive without losing the spirit of the day.
A few simple steps can help.
· Keep an eye out for signs that things may be getting harder.
· Find a calm, private moment to check in and ask your parent, or older family member, how they’re feeling.
· Suggest bringing trusted family members into the discussion so no one feels alone in the process.
· Ask whether they would be comfortable with you starting to explore options on their behalf.
Early planning tends to lead to better outcomes for everyone. It gives space to understand preferences, compare options and avoid last-minute decisions made under pressure.
How we can support you
If starting this conversation feels daunting, you don’t have to navigate it alone. We can step in as an objective, supportive voice to help guide the discussion, ease any tension and focus on what matters most.
If you’d like help exploring next steps or understanding the available options, get in touch to book a time to talk.
General Advice Disclaimer: Any advice included in this article has been prepared without taking into account your objectives, financial situation or needs. Before acting on the advice, you should consider whether it’s appropriate to you, in light of your objectives, financial situation or needs.